I am scared that my boyfriend may leave me

Question: I am scared that my boyfriend may leave me. We have been in a relationship since 6 years and he says I have a behaviour (anger) program. I have tried to change but I am often on a short fuse. I do shout at him and then regret later. We also have physical fights and I feel abused. But I feel very insecure when he says he will leave me. Please suggest.

Answer: It sounds like you are going through a difficult time in your relationship. It’s good that you recognize that your behavior is a problem and that you want to change it. The first step towards improving your relationship is acknowledging that there is an issue that needs to be addressed. Anger can be a difficult emotion to manage, but it is not impossible to learn how to handle it in healthier ways. There are several things you can do to work on your anger issues:

  • Seek professional help: Consider seeing a therapist or counselor who can help you develop healthy coping mechanisms for your anger.
  • Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and yoga can help you stay calm and centered when you feel angry.
  • Improve communication: Learn how to express your feelings in a healthy and constructive way, and listen to your partner’s perspective as well.
  • Take a break: If you feel yourself getting angry, take a break from the situation and give yourself some time to calm down before responding.

It’s important to remember that physical fights are never acceptable and can lead to serious harm. If you feel unsafe or abused in your relationship, please seek help immediately. You can contact a domestic violence hotline for support and resources.

Ultimately, it’s up to you and your boyfriend to decide whether to stay in the relationship or not. If you both decide to work on the issues together, it will take time and effort from both sides. However, if your boyfriend decides to leave, it’s important to respect his decision and focus on your own personal growth and healing.

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